LOVE ISNT REAL TO SOME EXTENT?

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We get ourselves confused with what’s happening, seeing way things happen in reality is a bit surprising, most especially when it comes to love. We all have different definitions for love; we see love in different perspectives. Everyone defines love according to their experiences (if not age) and exposure to different kinds of events, stories, movies and all.
To some, love isn’t real.
To some, love doesn’t disappoint.
To some, love doesn’t exist for a long period of time, it fades.
To some, love is everything, love is sweet and it’s always an amazing experience.
To some, love still exists and it’s based on situation.
To some, love isn’t viral; they believe love isn’t for all.
To some, love exist, saying it’s apparent in nature.
Some doesn’t even believe in love. They live like they live. Love isn’t real to some extent… some believe.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation whereby the feeling (love) is one sided? What I feel, the mistake most people are making is that, we don’t expect love in return. Love isn’t fair with some people when it comes to dating or someone having same feeling to them. Often times, we expect to be loved because of the way we love, but the truth is, we are all humans, we all have different feelings towards different people, we love differently. Love seems to be logic, love isn’t by force, love has grades (imbalance), and love isn’t equal, only the lucky ones find it equal.



Do you know, someone can love you desperately with their feelings and still not know how to love you correctly with their actions? You have to take note of everything in a relationship, be it friendship or otherwise, you have to know whether you’re being loved than valued, vice versa or even both. At times, you wonder, when you realized you are giving too much, you start feeling it’s a waste of time; you start feeling like you’re begging for love. Real love can never be easy; it’s more like a battlefield. It takes work every single day, at times it will seem unbearable, you’ll want to give up and that is when you start to think love doesn’t exist at all and you start forcing yourself to get over that feeling towards that person just because the person isn’t in at all. Meanwhile, some won’t even go ahead to forget that kind of feeling, and that’s when obsession comes in, fighting for what they want even if the other doesn’t want. What most humans claim to profess isn’t love but lust or in other major cases for the purpose of give and take, especially in most relationships.
On the other hand, love itself isn’t balance. You know the most beautiful and the ugliest thing about humans are that we are unpredictable. We all love so that we will own such person, but you start thinking elsewhere or something else when the person starts feeling reluctant or pursuing other things.

Can you love someone who deeply loves another person?
Can you love someone even after they show their worst side?
Can you love someone without the intention of owning them?

 (Ajibare Adedolapo)


Love in fact, is one of the hardest things to have and to keep.

You can kindly share your thoughts on love in the comment box::::
Does it really exist? 
In what form does it come? ...
What's your take on this? 

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