DATING OUT OF PITY

Let me start with this, often times we are faced with making decisions, problems of making the right choice, the problem of knowing right from wrong. At times we mislead our steps not taking note or considering ourselves or our future.

My dear, don’t make a wrong choice by dating the wrong guy out of pity just because he is your brother’s friend? Just because he had once helped your sister? All because your parent wanted it? Just because he bought you luxury of things? Then, why not reject it? Does that give you a reason to enforce yourself on him and regret it afterwards? Try to consider yourself in every steps you make most especially in a relationship, try to consider if it would be an everlasting joy, try to consider if he is the true spouse you have always wanted for your future, try to consider if you know the kind of person he is or even his background.

At times, we see husbands beating and using their wives in place of punching bags, these are mistakes ladies make not knowing the kind of man they married or would love to marry. Know the kind of man you want to marry and don’t allow your siblings or friends to enforce marriage or dating on you. Probably, the guy has been buying you things or because he cries every day and night just for your attention? All these come with a deceptive intention at times.

According to stories I’ve heard, most girls date out of pity and also for the goodies attached to it and not the result afterwards. Married women, after been punched and threatened would still go back to that home after been bombarded with luxury of gifts, not for the first time, the second nor the third, they rather cry in luxury cars. I see people getting prepared for weddings but not marriages.

Some ladies end up getting married to a guy who would rather abuse their family and misuse them. The mistakes some ladies make is to stick to this kind of marriage. If I must say, the grave yard is full of women who were told ‘”just hold on, he might change” give him another chance”.

Guys tends to show their true character in marriage than when you both were in a mere relationship, its either he treats you well more like before or reduce the rate at which he feels concerned about you. Often times, you wonder if this was the man you got married to. This is a matter of no turning back, no vacations, no holidays.

Hey ladies, never fall or date whom you ought not to date or get married to out of pity. If it’s not good, it’s not good. if it’s not your choice, reject it. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel as if you are wicked. If it doesn’t matches with your destiny, drop it and pray to God instead.

That is not only the issue; some girls are really choice less. They allow any kind of man to come in anytime anyhow. Ladies like this feels as if they are people’s choice. Hey, you getting it wrong, it’s because you are so cheap, it’s the other way round. Study yourself as a lady, know the things you want, how you want your future to be like, set your goals, every other lady is working to be independent, don’t make the mistake of dating the wrong person out of pity or no other choice. It’s your life and you have absolute right to take in or take out (if you get what I mean). Having a good stand is just the coolest; one sided love doesn’t really work for a relationship because it would be too weak to move further. Instead of deceiving each other, just tell him the truth plainly for it would cause more pain if it’s been forced on each other. And we see most people taking advantage of situations like this, why deceiving each other? This doesn’t pay.

At times, we hear people saying “date him, with time the love will grow and have a good balance” but ladies, is that the statement you want to risk your future on? After everything no one would ever come to bear the pains with you.

Think wisely and know what you want for marriage doesn’t have a limited time, it’s a life time deal, let not make the mistake most of our parents, friends, and siblings’ have made in order not to experience what they’ve experienced. “LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP”.

(Ajibare S. Adedolapo)